Mending Relationship coach and counsellin app.clickup.com
As a ‘relationship coach’ my role is to start to uncover and explore how to get out of our own way in relationships or, more accurately, prevent our past experiences limiting our future opportunities.
My passion is working with men and supporting them to find their connection with themselves and their emotions. This work revolves around two key approaches:
COURAGE
(originally meaning from the heart) - focus and support on self-expression and conversations that redeem and reclaim the healthy male spirit;
WHOLE-HEARTEDNESS
pathways to understanding ‘self’ and tools for openness, honesty, self-expression, and positive communication
Men are always more than just the ‘bread winner’, or emotionally ‘tough’ stalwart.
By supporting men to give themselves permission to be open and honest and to stop conforming to someone else’s model of manhood, men start to remember the beauty, kindness and ‘lightness’ that resides within.
HOW?
MY APPROACH
My work focuses on relationships (of any kind) that require mending, ending or regular tending.
In the relationship field I can provide short-term coaching, medium-term skills development, longer-term personal therapy. Think of these as ‘band-aid, icepack, or remedy’ options which we can use in combination to find just the right sort of service.
I offer a variety of communication skills, relationship strategies and personal practice tools that can be used to assist in managing challenging personal relationships. These skills and tools can be used to achieve solution or resolution focussed outcomes. The short to medium-term skills (band aid & icepack services) I can provide (in any combination) are:
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Mindfulness (slowing down and staying in your seat)
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Active listening (an invitation for understanding)
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Communication (speaking with courage, clarity and compassion)
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Emotional literacy (supporting the positive use of feelings)
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Effective anger management (understanding the purpose of being ‘pissed-off’)
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Positive parenting (child-focused relationships)
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Setting healthy personal boundaries (instead of building barriers)
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Self-awareness and self-reflection (seeing the wood for the trees)
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Relationship recovery (letting go and getting better)
To achieve longer-term (think life-time) personal change (think life-changing) I also use Hakomi therapy.
Hakomi is a ‘somatic therapy’
It is not ‘narrative’ or ‘talking’ therapy. It is a style of therapy that pays attention to the sensations and emotions in our body (aches, pains, physical and emotional reactions). A great deal of the work is based simply on focusing your awareness and paying attention to sensations and emotions in your body.
Physical sensations are the body’s way to ask the mind to pay attention. If we listen to our bodies, mindfully, we can derive valuable information that may not otherwise be available to us. Hakomi brings our attention to the valuable inter-relationship between what’s going on in our minds with what’s going on in our bodies.
As such Hakomi provides a very direct and simple approach to therapy that is compassionate, mindful, curious, non-invasive, humorous, and respectful.
Hakomi aligns with my own personal philosophies, beliefs and principles around kindness, respectfulness, mindfulness, non-violence, holism, and community.
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